Sex is wonderful, it’s timeless, it is a necessity and it makes the world go round. It is like a clean ozone layer and the people need it now.
The world is always changing (like Manto Tshabalala’s wigs) as is the process of sex, however the most drastic change has been what a person must do to actually get sex in the first place.
What I’m talking about is courtship, “macking”, “spading”, “hollering” “getting into the butchery” …whatever you may choose to call it, and it has to be done if you want to do the vertical shuffle.
In this fast and bizarrely wonderful era in which we live, “getting into the butchery” is no longer limited to dates at a crime-ridden park for a picnic of boiled egg sandwiches and cheap wine with a date you know will probably not have sex with you for at least the next six months unless your surname has something to do with mercantile or show business.
But then came the Internet!
To be blunt, online dating is what rebellious primary school children and 50-something divorcees do. However online courting is also for busy people on the go, and also for the just-plain-horny and sexually adventurous people. I chose to investigate the latter.
Tyra* is an incredibly attractive Lebanese girl I contacted through Gumtree.co.za which seems to be the ultimate hub of what they call “NSA fun” - meaning No Strings Attached fun. Tyra is her online screen name. She tells me she’s had sex with more than 10 people through Gumtree alone, as well as a few other encounters from groups on Facebook.
Her message post on the site is eloquently state: “I need black C**k”. At the end of the post she asserts in bold writing “I am not a call girl. Don't ask me for my price!”
“At first it’s like a learning experience, getting rid of the weirdos - then you start a system of choice and communication that you know is safe and works for you. It’s so much quicker than constant flirting and the setting up of dates and emotional baggage. This is straight to the point. Let’s just have sex and go home afterwards.”
Tyra is 22 and is currently working for a promotions company and is planning to start university next year. She has just spent the past two years travelling around Europe. “I don’t think I’ll start doing the whole dating thing when I get to varsity … I mean I will do it but not exclusively. Like this, it’s efficient and exciting.”
Wits students generally seem to be more into conventional modes of courtship such as reciting Karl Marx by candle light, judging from interviews I conducted.
Vumisa Kopano is a 20-year-old second year BA student who, when asked if he would ever have sex with a person he’d never met, using the Internet as his source, said, “I would never do it. It’s just a cop-out! I don’t even trust women in the clubs - how am I going to trust a woman from the Internet? It’s not like you can’t get a STD because she’s from cyberspace.”
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